Retrospectives in the family
Proposer: François
Participants: Sebastian, Gitte, Alex, Charlotte, Christina, Klaus, Kerstin, Felix, Martin
Observations about family retrospectives:
they feel natural (“So honey, how was your day?”)
the ceremony / structure / regularity increases safety (children ask for it to be regularly scheduled)
promise for a structured conversation
as parents, we know about the power of appreciations
triggered bottom-up or by events / data
trust builds on the non-hierarchical, inclusive nature of the retro
the purpose of family retros is hearing stories & nurturing relationships (not actionable outcomes)
funerals are occasions for retrospectives & can become moments of shared recollection of joyful memories
memory is collective, narrative & between people
retrospectives should be fun!
Bringing this insight to our business retrospectives:
What/who are our retrospectives triggered by?
How much space/time do we give to “hearing the story” (belonging) vs. “coming up with an action item” (fixing)?
Challenge: separate the purpose from the tangible outcome
Participants: Thanks for the open & profound session, please feel free to add your personal insights!